Do no harm

Stop imagining the future - If you haven't already worked it out, most of the time it doesn't resemble anything you thought it would

You reap what you sow - you are constantly reaping and sowing, sowing and reaping! It's time to stop ignoring this age old truth and take responsibility (see below). At any given time you are dealing with consequences and engaging in actions that will breed more consequences. Let regrets only teach you lessons, but do not wallow in them... use them to make your current sowing better and more effective, useful for others and praiseworthy. Do your best dealing with the consequences by keeping in mind the items above.

Stop blaming others for the way you feel - how you feel is the result of your thoughts; thinking is one of the very few things in life that you are in control of...this leads us to our next item.

Take responsibility - take responsibility for your thoughts, for your actions, for your decisions, for yourself. This is a one man job, one boss who is also the employee, so do your job and if you can help it, do it well!

Stop expecting others to make you feel better - nobody will save you, except Jesus (he has already)... so to get through this life alright you have to learn to make yourself feel better and never quit doing it. In any way you can you must care for yourself, keep yourself company, feed yourself and cheer yourself up. If you are finding it hard, ask God for help, but at all times remember the first item: DO NO HARM. Making yourself feel better should only involve other people if it's for their own good, not yours... otherwise you end up doing harm.

Help others - do not give a kick just because you got one... it will bite you back tenfolds. Help others because they are in this with you, suffering just as much if not more. You don't know what's going on upstairs (next item), so just do your best to be a blessing in others' lives.

Stop assuming things - just because you think or feel it, it's not necessarily true! Take no part in gossip, observe more, gather facts and stop connecting dots where there is no real meaning regarding you. You don't know what's going on upstairs in others, so stop pretending that you do. 

Do not indulge your insecurities - this goes hand in hand with assuming things, together they form your anxiety and give you heart and chest ache. If you find yourself assuming - imagining - feeling insecure (you would call it thinking) just stop and be (breathe, watch, listen, feel in the present moment).

Do not put on the cloak of bitterness - never works in the long run and overrides the items above. Once again: it does not work. Do Not Do It! Remember what happened when you did it... an effin' catastrophe! So do not do it! Never works.

Make haste slowly - considering everything above and the fact that you can't really trust your mind or feelings, it is important to slow down, observe, ask God for guidance and be a lady. Not a mop, a dog or a raging dragon. Just make haste slowly, do nothing instead of doing anything... by now you are aware of the wisdom that states this clearly so top ignoring it.